newjourneyaz (original poster new member #87609) posted at 1:53 PM on Tuesday, July 21st, 2026
…my ex husband and I divorced about a year ago after I found out he had been cheating with a younger woman at his work. I know, probably all too common.
The divorce has been relatively easy for the most part, he has not pushed back and we have remained as amicable as one could expect given the situation
Fast forward to today and I get a random message from a much older former colleague of his. I had always been a bit smitten with him, he is incredibly kind, intellectual, and the rugged masculine type.
But here I am feeling a bit guilty, I am no longer married but given their history I am feeling somewhat awful for being interested in him. Surely this is not appropriate, is it?!
Letmebefrank ( member #86994) posted at 2:17 PM on Tuesday, July 21st, 2026
Dude, go for it. Your xWH fired you from the job of wife. He forfeited the right to influence the direction of your life, and your love life is none of his fckn business. Don’t miss out on a chance to be happy just because it might be awkward for your EX.
newjourneyaz (original poster new member #87609) posted at 4:32 PM on Tuesday, July 21st, 2026
That is really good advice and the right perspective. Not sure why I care so much about hurting him potentially considering what he decided to do when we were married
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 5:23 PM on Tuesday, July 21st, 2026
I think you are worried your XH will throw this back in your face and try to attempt to paint you as a cheater.
Except his opinion or thoughts no longer matter.
Do what you wish.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
